We’re always interacting with each other. Our lives collide, and leave imprints on others about our nervous laughters and sloppy hand gestures. Social psychology is a composition of unwritten social rules that structure our behaviour, things that are almost so obvious that we miss them completely. Let me enlighten you.
- Try to notice eye color whilst smiling when meeting someone. It might be because you look for a second or two longer, but all I can tell you is that people really respond to it.
- Look closely at a group and notice who is closest to who by who each person looks at when laughing at a joke. People instinctively look at and agree with the person they feel closest to within the group. This will also help point out the (if not obvious) group leader.
- Nodding whilst talking tends to sway people in agreement with you. They will begin to mimic you and nodd back to you.
- If you ask a question to someone and they only partially answer, just wait, they will keep talking. Holding eye contact and it will put a strain on them to continue.
- If you need a favour, begin with “I need your help”. The other person will most often feel obliged to help you when putting yourself out there.
- Joining a conversation, notice if their feet are pointed towards you. If not, they probably don’t want you there.
- You can notice if someone is interested in what you’re saying by folding your arms. Humans have a tendency of copying those we like. If the other person folds their arms too, they’re interested.
- If you get yourself to be really happy and excited to see other people, they will react the same to you.
It’s friday and amongst all the chaos I think it is a profound thing to sit and illustrate. It’s simple and fulfilling and doesn’t cause wars. If only I could fold my piano neatly into my suitcase and bring all my books.
“Good art is not what it looks like, but what it does to us.” – Roy Adzak
Luckily my little windy town is giving us a small speck of warmth before autumn hits. Nevertheless, I have some of my own life-hacks to share with you. Only 2 weeks left before my departure to Australia. Did someone say nervous?
- Freeze your candles and they will last longer.
- Tea bags reduce swelling, itching, irritation, almost everything on your skin.
- Use the inside of a banana peel to rub your teeth into a whiter smile.
- Enter the ingredients you have at home on supercook.com and it will tell you what you can make and how.
- If you’re baking and out of eggs you can substitute with half a banana.
- Almonds are psychologically proven to help relieve stress.
- Put chapstick on a paper cut to reduce sting.
- Exercise will help conquer winter depression.
Have any other hacks? Share them!
This has become the most relevant thing in my life right now. Change. It is something so fundamentally horrid and necessary. Some periods of change are so confusing we don’t even recognise that growth is happening. We may feel hostile or angry or weepy and hysterical, or we may feel depressed. It would never occur to us, unless we stumbled across a book or a person who explained to us, that we were in fact in the process of change, of actually growing larger, mentally, than we were before.
It is also something we can see head on, happening before us out of choice. We tend to feel it, as everything must feel the weight and inertia of the earth. Often the feeling is anything but pleasant. But what is most unpleasant is the not knowing of what is happening or going to happen. It’s painful, it’s inevitable.
It is realisation.
I’ve become to learn that there isn’t a how to guide in embracing change. It is a realisation. A jump. A must. A mind set that you won’t regret because no amount of growth is ever bad. Only the lack of it. It can only affect you positively even if you may not believe it. It is so existentially cliche but holding yourself back is what you will regret. What if I told you that 10 years from now, your life would be exactly the same. Doing the same things with the same people. I doubt you’d be happy. So why are you afraid of change? In the end of it all, we move forward.
I’ve always adored mixed media and these simplistic illustrations are so innovative I had to share. You can find plenty more on his Instagram here. I stumbled upon them on Pinterest actually. And I’ve become quite an addict. If anyone wants to be friends you can find me as pinterest.com/louuht.
We possess a device in our pocket that allows us the entirety of information known to man and we browse cat videos and get into arguments with strangers. This generation is blessed with technological advances and shame it. Social media selfies, hashtags, lol cats, and Justin Bieber. That desperate attention for likes to somehow validate ourselves. All together it’s a big fat face palm. Hypes and viral videos come and go and unwind a friday afternoon however we forget to look up and remember there is a physical world above the virtual one. This seemingly small matter has been brought to attention though and raised more awareness about looking up. You can find the link here. This hit the fan back in April but seems to already have been forgotten.
The world is only getting smaller and the vast distances between nations and oceans have been reduced to the peripheral arc of a laptop being opened; the ‘click/drag’ of a mouse over its designated area on the computer table; or even the distance from one’s hand to their handheld device and/or tablet wedged firmly in their trouser pocket or in the outer sleeve of their carry-bag.
Much of the current generation have never lived without the Internet; being born and raised in a world that is constantly connected. It has become an addiction, a second limb; the relative ease with which we can dissociate ourselves from our surrounding reality and access the cyberspace has inevitably altered the landscape of human interaction and relationism.
Oh that sounds fancy.
Tried this out today and it is absolutely yum. I’d say it fits in perfectly to begin autumn which unfortunately has come so soon. 32 days left until that airplane will take me far far away to new and splendid things and I’m so very looking forward to reporting to you lovelies from there.
A summary of summer through my iphone so far!
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It saddens me that beautifully written literature that forms minds, carves understanding, and builds depth is no longer as valued in today’s world. What is written may only be read through screens, and the content of these screens seem materialistic, product-placed, and build empty headed drones that no longer question what they read.
Maybe it’s not the screens, but the content of these screens. Philosophers used to be adored and seen as the wisest of men. Now taking those positions are politicians, presidents who rule a corrupt self-serving system that abides to those who have money and have monopoly on what media we see. It is a shame that philosophers and their ideas and relentless questioning of the world we live in aren’t revered anymore, but taken little consideration to.
Sure, ideas don’t build cities but they are the foundations of it. I find myself falling wholeheartedly into books and poetry and philosophical concepts, but I feel I find myself close to alone in that regard. At least, there are no forums for this kind of expression on the internet. Facebook is for photoshopped images and selling a product that is yourself, the food you eat, and parties you don’t take part in. Twitter and Instagram is quite the same.
Where is the room for that eye-opening, heart-wrenching, life-changing, and fucking desirable texts, transcripts, novels, books, quotes, poetry, the written word that is written to inspire people and to teach kindness and love and challenges us to use our language and express the way we feel because isn’t that what’s most important after everything that we make damn sure and scream loudly and get in better touch with our inner philosopher like what does this all mean and why the fuck are we here.
Don’t worry, be happy.
Because I think everybody kind of already knows how to be happy, sometimes we just need a reminder.
- Love & accept yourself for who you are.
- See relationships as an extension to, rather than the basis of the human experience.
- Embrace change. Life is a constant lesson and happy people tend to be well-aware of that.
- Celebrate rather than compare yourself to the accomplishments of others.
- Never dwell in being a victim.
- Trust that everything will be okay.
- Dont let money dictate your life.
- Live in the present!
Sunday was made a roadtrip down the southern coast with my cousins. It was truly refreshing to swap sounds of traffic to bird twitter and stop over in small collective farmlands and harbours. Not to mention the 5 week old kittens!
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It is now mid-summer and only 2.5 months until my departure to Australia! A midst the sun, fun, and malibou vodka I wanted to share with you some of my own so called life hacks that might bring you some ideas.
- Freeze any of your alcoholic/non-alcoholic drinks in popsicle molds for those warm days.
- Pour coffee into an ice tray, so you make coffee-flavored cubes that don’t water down your iced coffee.
- Mix Aloe Vera with water and freeze it to ice your body after a day in the sun.
- Honey and olive oil make a cheap face mask.
- You can use a piece of dry spaghetti to light candles.
- Bleach your hair whilst tanning with lemon juice.
- Avoid blisters from shoes by putting deodorant on your feet.
- Easily make your own portable grill like so..
Have any other hacks? Share them!
Just last night I played around in the depths of my consciousness, walking on water, talking to animals, and eating a kitchen full of chocolate..well because I wanted to! For a moment I was heading into a nightmare, so I just let myself wake up.
Lucid dreaming is this insanely cool concept where your body is asleep yet you are still conscious enough to have complete control over your dreams! There are absolutely no limitations to what you can create and something anyone can do with some practice.
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Oh my quad Becky, look at that squat!?
This is by no means nor ever will be a fitness blog, simply that isn’t my interest. However, we do love healthy happy bodies that make healthy happy minds! So, without further ado, I have accepted a 30-day 100-squats challenge. The rules are quite self explanatory and I have only heard good things about this challenge!
I hope to bring you better than good results and if any of you want to try or have already done this, share your progress! Checking off day one. Gonna drop it like a squat all month.
Above are some photos of myself in the woodsy setting of Pålsjö. My friend Emelie and I had been chatting about having a photo session for quite a while and I’m really happy we finally got it done! More photos are on their way, with Emelie as well, so check in!